Pillow method

Want a great tool to use the next time you feel someone has done you wrong (assuming writing a good country song doesn't work). Could be a neighbor, spouse, child, or anyone else for that matter. This is called the Pillow Method. I've tried it several times before personally, and it is a great way to take yourself through the steps of seeing things from multiple points of view. I think it is best used for very serious disagreements/misunderstandings. Here are the steps:

Write out the following in narrative format, providing as much evidence to support each position below as you can:

1. I am completely right and the other person is completely wrong.
2. The other person is completely right and I am completely wrong.
3. We are both right at the same time.
4. It really doesn't matter that much which of us is right.
5. There are pieces of the truth in all four statements above.

Now, don't rush into a major disagreement with someone on my account just to test it out. But if you happen to get yourself into a good misunderstanding anyway, give it a try. After doing this exercise several times, I started learning to run through it in my head whenever I am feeling misunderstood or upset.